“Fellas, calling your wife hot to other people is awkward. We cant agree with you. That would be really weird. We cant disagree with you. That would be really mean.”
By Barnabas Piper
I saw a tweet from a friend recently that said If I hear one more Christian guy call his wife hot (every time he talks about her), Im going to throw a plate at the wall. I suggested that he actually throw the plate at the guy calling his wife hot, or smokin hot for that matter (tongue in cheek, of course). Maybe it would knock some sense and normalcy into them.
Fellas, calling your wife hot to other people is awkward. We cant agree with you. That would be really weird. We cant disagree with you. That would be really mean. Ignoring you is rude, but its probably ourbest option in this case. Do you really want us trying to determine if your wife is, in fact, hot? Im glad youthink shes a 10. You should. But calling attention to her hotness doesnt honor her as much as it creates an opportunity for others to judge. And thats just awkward.
Its also subjective.Youthink your wife is hot. In fact, you think shes the hottest, just as you should. But what if other guys dont? Do you really want to raise that issue? And what if they do? Do you really want to know, or to bring it to their minds? Your wife is your standard of beauty, or at least she should be. But every time you call her hot (which refers exclusively to physical beauty, unlike beautiful or lovely or amazing, all of which can encompass personality and character), you are making her a standard of beauty for others. You are talking about her objectively; that is to say, you are objectifying her. Bad idea.
It is a great thing to honor your wife publicly. Its good for people to know your devotion to her and how much you love her. Its good for people to know you are attracted only to her and want only her. But keep the hotness talk inside the walls of your home. Thats between you and her. Tell her she is smokin hot all you want. But dont tell the rest of us because it does no good for anyone.
About the Author:Barnabas works in social media and content marketing for Lifeway Christian Resources. He is the author of The Pastor’s Kid: Finding Your Own Faith and Identity (David C. Cook, July 2014). Barnabas and his wife live in the Nashville area with their two daughters. Follow him on Twitter @BarnabasPiper or check him out on his website.